Monday, February 8, 2010

Quit Smoking – Proper Motivation

Most people quit smoking for themselves. That’s not the proper motivation to quit successfully, I think.

Are you a smoker? Are you trying to quit? You did but failed, for a couple of times. Do you know why? I think not.

I’m not an expert at this but I’m 10 months successful now. Never read something or taken any advice from someone. I did it all by myself, my own ways.

When I first decided on quitting smoke, I thought of the first time that little stick of leaves touched my lips, its smoke in and out of my lungs. It’s been too long that those smokes are incurring damages to my lungs. “I won’t let that happen anymore”, I said to myself. Dying early is not an option. I love me!

For you and most people that want to quit would say that is a great idea. Do it for yourself. Live a healthy life. Of course that is great. You love yourself, sure. You’d like to do something for yourself and quitting is something that you like. But you also love smoking don’t you? That’s the reason you did it in the first place, you love smoking. So what, which of the two things that you like to do for yourself would you do? You can’t say “I love myself more” because there is no other person, it’s just you. It would be difficult for you to do 2 things that you like which are exactly opposite. It’s like wanting your right leg move forward and your left leg backward, you’ll sure stay stuck.

If you will weigh your options, it’s practically balanced, you against yourself. What you need is to bring in more weight on the positive side. That is what others will tell you to do, I think. Weighing things? What I will suggest is that it is better if you remove yourself from the option of motivation. This way there will be no weighing, no negative side, no backward, only forward.

But now, you’re out of motivation! The good thing here is there is no more negative. So let’s find the positive.

It’s human nature to be good, to help others, to do things for others. Sometimes we do things first for others before we do for ourselves. That is what you will do, help someone. Do the quitting for someone else, not for you. How? How would you quitting be helping someone? Think of this, the worst case here is you dying early if you continue to smoke. Who will suffer the most when that happens? He/she will be hurt so much you wish you will take his/her place. That person will be your motivation, your reason on quitting smoke.

That’s it, the proper motivation is not you but someone else.

Before you start on quitting, again, think of your motivation first. Do you have the proper one?